Damage Control

Kalurkey ang complication ng miscommunication among friends.

Friend A and B are in the worst terms and conditions applied. They became good friends, then bedbuddies, then enemies. Me and friend C are common friends of A & B.

Ako promotor ng dinner sana namin ni A & C. Play by ear si C, at si A ay nag-contingency na pag di natuloy, mag-gymnastics na lang daw sya.

The next day, B invited us for a movie, which conflicts with the dinner plan. Since libre at one-time offer na di pwedeng i-postpone, pumayag ako to B, eventually cancelling out with A.

I told A the truth, asked him not to get mad at me, and apologized. A accepted my sorry, but I felt he didn't take it well.

Then, I cancelled on B. I told him that I had dinner plans with A and ditched it for the movie. And I wanted to be fair. It may not make A feel better, but it may lessen the damage caused by the thought that I and C "abandoned" B.

Then I talked to C that I may have made 'damay' of him in the situation (kasi I told A that I am going with B and C to the movie). C doesn't want to go alone with B naman to the cinema. And after learning that I may attack the wet and sinful halls of the bathhouse, C suggested to me to go with them to the movies. Magkape na lang kami afterwards ni C with A minus B. C said he'll make lambing to A, and iron out the gusot. Akma namang mag-gymnastics muna si A, while I B and C are watching.

All was well that ended well naman.

Lessons learned:

1. Ang hirap ng damage control ng miscommunication. Mas mahirap din naman kasing magsinungaling o magtago ng katotohanan, at pag nabisto eh mas malaking pinsala ang dinudulot nun, db?

2. Wag nang mag-entertain ng ibang invitations from others pag nakaplano na ang isang bagay with a friend. Kahit pa may ibang pagkakataon na magsama kayo nitong kaibigan mo, di maiiwasang isipin ng tao na tinabla mo sya para sa kalaban.

Tao lang naman ako, natutukso ng libre. :-(

Pero eto ang di ko maintindihan, mas mauunawaan ka pa ng friend mo pag booking ang dahilan ng cancellation mo sa plano (at least in my circle, it happens). Pero pag enemy nya ang nabanggit, bakit ganun?