Thursday, July 1, 2010

That Thing called Spark

I was googling "how to tell a spark" and the world wide web returned hits like "how to replace spark plugs", or "how to tell if a spark plug is not working".

So I rephrased my search to 'spark of love'.

The first hit was I think covered my question on sparks of love - Do you think that the "spark" of love begins as a physical, emotional, or intellectual attraction?

http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/403857

Answer - the spark of Love starts with the emotional...the spark of interest would be physical
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/403857#ixzz0sCZyHPTw


This particular reply made me, "ah, ganun pala." Ignoramus? Hehe.

Some netizens say it's physical, some say the spark starts with the physical, physical, I wanna get physicaaaaal (let's get into physical!) debbie gibson just possessed me. And so, the exorcism of emily rose.

Some commenters believe that the spark of love starts in the intellectual level:

For me, attraction begins at an intellectual level. If you don't have anything substantial to bring to the table - stimulating conversation, life experience and maturity - then I don't have time for you.


In 99% of my relationships, I have been friends with my partner before beginning a sexual relationship with them. I guess it could be construed as emotional as well since I tend to care more over time.

I've always said the way to my pants is through my head and I am very blessed that I found a man who stimulates me on ALL three levels.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/403857#ixzz0sCbXRXps
 
Others say they get the spark in the emotional form.
 
I personally experience the spark of interest as a first step towards connecting with the person in an intimate level. Physical attraction is a factor, but doesn't hold as much weight as the intellectual aspect of the spark. I believe there's also an emotional side to it - the mixed feelings of happiness and anxiety when you think about the person or see him/her.

Dear readers, where do you think the spark of love starts on your side?

19 comments:

  1. dear emily rose.

    hindi ako magkokoment hehehe. la lang. natakot ako. baka napoposses ka pa din eh.

    loves,

    dabo

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  2. Dabo, I love you back lah!

    Sige na, please, ano sagot mo?

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  3. Consider all three as corporeal: the left side of your brain being tickled by thoughts from another one of our kind, the medulla oblongata licked to utter smugness, and of course the eyes that breathe lust on that special someone they would land on.

    almost everything is related to the pubis. and eventually to the heart. depende where we all come from.

    with all my three (distant past, recent past and present), it was a matter of emotional compatibility. the physical attraction was of course crucial. and the intellectual just grew.

    one is not superior to the other. they were all complementary.

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  4. Carrie,

    (with a lecturing tone)

    The falling in love phase can include the physical, emotional and intellectual attraction in different combinations. It can be different for each person, depending on what attracts them to a person.

    The falling in love phase can only end in two ways: you either fall out of love, or you begin to love the person.

    (end of lecture, bows out)

    Kane

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  5. Kiks, tama ka, they are complimentary, intertwined even.

    Kane, true. Either the phase ends or it further progresses into a deeper thing.

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  6. good looks matter (so i guess it starts with the physical)
    intelligence really matters (of wavelengths and frequencies kumbaga, para di ma-bore)
    and then the emotional (which will make or break it. hellorollercoaster)
    ps: parang cute yung dabo.

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  7. Ang brusko ng pangalan, dabo, tapos parang cute noh? Haha, nanggagatong lang. Parang nakaramdam ako ng spark of ineterest dun ah. Choz

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  8. ay hmmm...mababaw ako kaya the interest starts with the physical thingy, saka lng lalalim ung interest kapag napagtanto kong merong chemistry ahaha...kasi khit cute kpag di kayo sakto walang epekto haha :P

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  9. We would like to posit a new question. Are spark and chemistry two different concepts or are they just one and the same thing?

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  10. Kasalanan ni Soltero ito eh, binanggit pa ang salitang chemistry. I'm dumbfounded tuloy.

    Choz.

    Mugen, I guess, in my opinion, sparks and chemistry are the same. I read somewhere that these are subjective terms that describe the chemical reactions of the body when a person falls in love or gets attracted to another.

    Let's see what the others can say about it.

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  11. dear caridad,

    meron type mga nerdoks. meron type mga wafu fez. meron type mga sugpo. walang paghuhusga kasi kanya-kanya lang yan.

    ang mas magandang tanong, kung merong liyab ng pakiramdam, e may bayag bang panindigan ito? ;)

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  12. It starts with the physical ALMOST ALWAYS.

    People actually have a misnomer that love in first sight exist, however, lust in first sight is more appropriate. Or more politically correct.

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  13. intellectual connection tita. fo sho! :)

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  14. eternal wanderer, di ko alam kung nakasakay na kita sa dyipni minsang papunta ako ng Quiapo mula Quezon Circle.

    pero mahal ko ang moda ng paggamit sa bayag.

    kung papatol ka sa sungki, available ako. CHOS

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  15. Dahil lahat yata ng utak ko naging tamod na at napunta lahat sa ulo ng etits ko - magpakatotoo tayong lahat that spark starts on a physical level! kasi di mo na aalamin ang intelectual thingy ng isang tao kung di ka attracted sa kanya in the first place ;-)sa akin basta swak lang ang topak! PASOK!

    o di, ba ang lalim ng explanation ko? wahahaha

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  16. okay let me key in my two cents:

    Attraction is always illogical. I guess the more we know about what makes us tick, will makes us more aware of our motives for falling...there is always a good reason and the real reason.

    Heto bulgaran na talaga ito, ayon sa statistic kailangan mas bata sa akin. Wahahahahah!!!! I think spark din yun hahha

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  17. Si Kiks at Ternie, mukhang may chemistry kayo. Char

    Si Bien (orallyyours) at Dabo, may spark na rin. Ching

    Si JR Soltero at Mugen sa tingin ko ang love triangle ng taon. Yay!

    Nimmy, expected ko na yan from you; you're a smart kid and I'm sure Leo is a match and a catch. :)

    Dabo, panalo ka sa "attraction is illogical" churva. More often than not, we fall for a person who's slightly, if not almost, out of our desired criteria. Leche kasing chemical reactions sa katawan at utak, nagugulumihanan ang ating pag-iisip habang tayo'y nahuhumaling sa isang tao.

    Guyrony, pag na-stuck ka na sa pisikal na attraction, malamang nga lust lang yun. Dapat may intellectual stimulation at emotional appeal yung tao. Otherwise, titi lang sya sa paningin. Chos

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  18. Carrie,

    (start of lecture)

    "Physical" was sung by Olivia Newton-John, not Debbie Gibson.

    (end of lecture)

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  19. Hahahaha! I stand erected. Thank you, Joel.

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